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By: SocialButterfly

SocialButterfly — Mon, 11 May 2009 22:35:27 +0000

@saikodelia

I like that. I think your key phrase was: “as long as its real.” –that you are being who you are, being honest, being authentic, being true, being transparent…all that good stuff.

By: saikodelia

saikodelia — Mon, 11 May 2009 19:02:34 +0000

from my experience, being nice is sometimes confused with being weak. on the other hand being nice is also sometimes confused with saying yes to everything.
being nice in the human interaction is just – nice! as long as its real.

aja, and to prefer to be hated by others is a bit sick and counterproductive to the human civilization; could be a strategy of warfare, however

By: Fred McClimans

Fred McClimans — Mon, 11 May 2009 18:12:29 +0000

This really sounds like an issue of being either willing to express your own opinion, or being okay with tempering your more extreme thoughts to meet the expectations of others. Somewhat akin to those who constantly use the phrase “sounds reasonable” without being willing/able to express their doubts. No wonder the 60% in the middle follow the next 15% out (and do, thankfully, tend to ignore the extreme 5% fringe).

By: Geoff Livingston

Geoff Livingston — Mon, 11 May 2009 18:02:30 +0000

Alex and Marc: Winning is definitely a very subjective thing defined by each individual.

Mike: I’d rather be true to myself than be a kiss butt for the sake of not being hated. Guess there are two sides to every coin.

By: Mike Darnell

Mike Darnell — Mon, 11 May 2009 17:58:33 +0000

I’d rather have a few friends I can count on than a gazillion followers that hate me any day. The question is what is a “Friend” on this social web anyway?
My take: http://www.digitalartprintgallery.com/blog/21.html

Mike
I do art and tweet @pop_art cause it makes me happy, everything else is a bonus…
: )

By: Marc Vermut

Marc Vermut — Mon, 11 May 2009 17:09:56 +0000

Geoff, thanks for including me in the post, but it appears I was answering a different question than you were asking. Absolutely agree that it is important to have an opinion that you believe in and stand by it, regardless of the rest of the marketplace. And that strident discourse around positions is important.

What I lament is that this is often confused with taking positions and tones meant to rile people emotionally and crowd out room for reasonable conversation.

And Alex also highlights a bigger question as to what “finishing” and “winning” are. These tend to be largely cultural and attitudinal, except as defined within your post. A larger question for a longer day.